Article by Christian Hudson.
You and I both know that you can’t just snap your fingers and know how to make a girl want you. Let’s be honest with each other – there’s no “silver bullet” that’s gonna make her just fall for you. But what I want to do here today is give you two big tips that are gonna help you out in a big way.
I’m guessing if you’re reading this then there is a particular girl you like, and you’ve probably talked with her a little bit. If you are still working up the courage to talk to her, that’s a whole other thing; you should read my tips on how to talk to approach a girl you like.
So here’s the simple way that to get a girl to want you:
1.) Make Her Want You… By Being Awesome
It’s kind of cliche, but it’s like this: you’ve gotta have something more important than the girl in your life. something you’re driven to do. not just because she’ll respect you for being driven, but also because she’s gotta know that you’ve got something more important than her. A girls gets turned off when she’s the center of a guy’s life, but if she feels like she has to COMPETE for his attention with something else, it’s a big turn on. She wants to be part of the adventure… she doesn’t want to be the adventure.
2.) Build Attraction By Making Her Feel Good
When you’re around her, make her FEEL GOOD. Most nice guys think the right way to do this is to kiss her ass, talk about their feelings, etc. Jerks are just, well… jerks – they’re mean and they put girls down (note: bad boys aren’t jerks – they just put themselves first and have boundaries, which most nice guys don’t). And insecure guys just try to prove themselves and brag.
None of those guys end up with the girl. No, the guy who knows women is able to make her LAUGH and SMILE by being playful and teasing her – that’s how to get a girl to want you. And you have to be ok making fun of yourself too – it shows that you’re confident.
This video demonstrates some examples of how to flirt with a girl properly using a ninja technique that I call “implied investment”. It’s kind of long (I would definitely tighten it up if I recorded it again) but it’s full of awesome material. I also reveal some huge mistakes that I see guys making, and what to do instead.
3.) Excite Her By Being Unpredictable
Answer some of her texts immediately, but make her wait an hour before answering others. Or be super friendly one day, like hugging her and smiling at her a lot, then be kind of distant the next day. This unpredictability creates DRAMA and makes her work invest more in getting your attention. I mean heck, she already knows you’re awesome and she already feels good around you, so just make her miss it and wonder if she can have it all to herself, and you’ll be set.
Make a Girl Want You: More Tips
Look – get these things right, and you WILL make a girl want you. Obviously, there’s a lot of other “little stuff” but if you get this stuff wrong, then it doesn’t matter how much of the little stuff you get right.
So now that you’ve got a baseline, let’s get more specific. Which of the following describes your situation best?
- “There’s a girl I know, but I haven’t really talked to her yet – I want some tips on how to make her want me when I approach her.”
- “There’s a girl who I like, but she thinks of me as a friend, and I want some tips on how to make her want me as a boyfriend or hookup buddy.”
- “I’ve gone on a date (or a few) with a girl, but I’m not making good progress, and I don’t want to lose her.”
- “My girlfriend is losing interest – or broke up with me – and I want to know how to make her want me again.“
- “I’ve got a girl’s number, but I’m not sure what to text her, and I want to know what texts to send to make her want me.“